HOW TO BE A WOMAN, and other stories.

Caitlin Moran How to be a WomanStop what you’re doing immediately. ‘But I’m reading busts4justice.com’, you cry. ‘Can’t a girl enjoy five minutes of boob bloggery without being ordered to action?’

Alright. Fine. Read this, but then you really must leg it to your local bookshop/e-tailer and buy Caitlin Moran’s How to be a Woman at the earliest possible moment.  The columnist, Twitterist, and regular top-ist of ‘girls that would be fun to drink gin with lists’, has navigated everything from armpits to Z-list celebrity in her mission to to decode feminism for the now-ties.

Ever since an oafish, spitting, boily faced drunk penned me in to the corner of a grotty Brighton pub and slurred “you’re not one of those feminist types, are you” after I’d politely asked him to stop referring to my breasts as separate entities, I’ve had no trouble declaring myself to be a feminist.

But it can be hard balancing what should be straightforward – the equal opportunities, values and treatment for all bit – with the more nebulous aspects of modern life. How do you balance a feeling that cultural pressure to be ever young, thin and beautiful is fundamentally wrong with a basic wish to look good? How do you celebrate your own sexuality whilst feeling so uneasy about porn encroaching on everyday life? Why – and this is something that bothers me more and more as I get older – are there thongs, and why are they so keen to be worn internally?

In How to be a Woman, Caitlin Moran walks this path for us, tackling all of these things as she weaves in and out of her own life-story. It’s heartwarming and pretty inspiring, and the passages on fat and body image should be compulsory reading in secondary school. It’s also not judgemental. How to be a Woman might not want to take pole dancing classes, or wax its muff, or wear a thong itself – but the book’s strength lies in the fact that the beef is always with the causes of these things, rather than the women who choose to partake themselves. And in fact, if these things are done with glee rather than anxiety, fear or any sense of obligation, it’s something to be celebrated regardless.

I’ve read some fairly scathing reviews from feminists about the book, but I think they’re missing the point. How to be a Woman knows it’s not a heavyweight feminist text. It’s not supposed to be. Heavyweight feminist texts are not read by normal women, because normal women have millions of other things to worry about. This is intelligent but accessible feminism for everyone. It’s also terribly funny, and romping through it on my morning train ride inspired a lot of curious glances from nearby, more austere looking commuters. Oh, if only they knew I was giggling about wanking and knob jokes…

How to be a Woman is out now in paperback.

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Magical Masquerade: a sneak peek at Panache AW11

Panache Masquerade Lingerie Capella

Panache’s Masquerade collection never fails to turn up the glamour, but after a sneaky peek at their AW11 collection I think this season might just be their hottest yet.

Notably this season promises more vintage Hollywood glamour then ever before, and the sort of vintage styles that a: I’m a complete sucker for anyway, and b: convince me that by wearing them I too could be the sort of effortlessly stylish and capable woman I’ve always dreamed of becoming, possibly with a satin housecoat.

Immediately, I fell in love with this 50’s inspired Capella (D-G, above). It’s a beautifully classic set, and I love how understated it is: it’s a sophisticated and subtle slice of boudoir sexiness, perfect for warming up those long winter nights. And for those who want to turn the temperature up from warm to scorching, this Delphi basque (D-H, below) reveals a tantalising trail of stomach behind gorgeous lace detailing.

Maquerade Basque Delphi AW11

The unstoppably popular Lula-Mae (D-H, below) will return mid-August with a flourish, reworked in to this beautiful olive colour for the autumn. Favourite Rhea is also due to make a comeback too, in a luscious mulberry colour with slate detailing.

It would be nice to see Masquerade expand in to J cups, (perhaps next season…) but it’s a cracking collection to warm us through the cold nights. I’m already looking forward to celebrating their release with an indulgent lingerie spree. And a satin housecoat. And possibly some kind of beehive…

Panache Masquerade Lingerie Lula Mae

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Swimwear or scare-wear? Fiendish fun from Iron Fist…

Zombie Print Iron Fist BikiniPerfect for those fancy dress Halloween pool parties (somewhere in the Universe, etc…), I couldn’t resist sharing this fantastically freaky zombie bikini from Iron Fist. It’s not the most grown-up-glamourous of swimwear selections and I doubt any G+ cup could so much as think about brainz before slipping a nip, but for horror fans and girls desperate for something a bit different to chintzy prints and lollipop colours, what better way to individualise your beachside style than by transforming your perfectly human body in to something a bit more, well, undead?

Excellent fun and a killer deal at only $30. I’m ever so slightly concerned about those teeth though…

What do you think?

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY BIKINIS! Hmm, how to celebrate…

Louis Reard Inventing Bikini(Okay, so it’s a day late, but I did wear my Freya Cabaret bikini yesterday and as the saying goes it’s the unconscious thought that counts…)

Yesterday was the 65th birthday of the bikini, the most fun item of apparel ever invented. Named after the small Pacific atoll where the first atomic bomb was tested, the modern bikini was invented by Louis Réard (above) and appeared first on the catwalk in 1946.

For me, the bikini is all about freedom. It’s about throwing myself bare belly first in to the freezing English Channel and just enjoying it, not giving a damn about being judged for the shape of my body. (Anyone who’s ever thrown themselves bare belly in to the freezing English Channel knows, if anyone is watching you it is with concerns about your mental health AWE.)

So let’s honour this most awesome invention by gorging our eyeballs on some of this year’s highlights…

On another note, how cute is that ribboned one-piece? Could someone rework it for Summer 2012? Panache? Freya? Miss Mandalay? Bravissimo? Curvy Kate? *stares pointedly*.

 

FREYA BARDOT BIKINI

Freya Bardot, out August 2011.

Panache Lucile bikiniPanache Lucile

figleaves midnight grace bikiniMidnight Grace by Figleaves

Miss Mandalay BikiniMiss Mandalay

 

Slinky Dip Polka Dot Halter BikiniSlinky Dip

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Butterfly Collection: one woman’s mission to fit Canada

Butterfly Collection Canada

Claire Dumican (@bflycollection) left the UK for Canada seven years ago, where her experiences shopping as an ex-pat inspired her to set up Butterfly Collection. Now, her company provides more affordable lingerie for bigger boobs in Canada, with free shipping across the country. But Claire’s ambitions go beyond lingerie retail: Claire is on a mission to re-educate women about fitting, so that everyone can experience the life-enhancing benefits of properly supportive lingerie. As well as offering a personal fitting service to individuals and parties, Butterfly Collection’s Online Bra School is a fantastic resource for finding a good fit by yourself. And Claire, whilst manning the Canadian front of the global battle, has been an invaluable and knowledgeable support in the war on plus four tousles of recent weeks. Fortunately for us, Claire is as lovely as she is inspiring, and was was kind enough to answer a few questions for busts4justice.com. Check her out chatting boobs, bras and body image below.

Claire Dumican Butterfly Collection Canada

What is the lingerie market like in Canada? How does it cater for busty women?

La Senza and Victoria’s Secret dominate the high street. Because La Senza is a Canadian brand it has a lot of customer loyalty here. Neither of these stores is aimed at busty women and currently there isn’t a high street brand that caters to busty women. A lot of busty women have to shop online in the States or buy from boutiques.

What inspired you to set up The Butterfly Collection?

After living here for 4 years I decided I ought to try buying bras here rather than waiting for a trip back home. I knew La Senza and Victoria’s Secret didn’t carry my size, I’m a 32H/34G, so I went to a big department store (the most reputable in Canada). After a cursory browse I asked an assistant if they had bras over a D cup. She looked at me for a moment then said “you mean a double D?” I replied “and the rest of the alphabet.” She shook her head definitively and said “oh no, you’ll need to visit a specialist store.” She may as well have said that I was a freak and needed not to mention my big bosoms in public!

I visited a ‘specialist store’ as directed and they did indeed have my size but they were about $180 each – that’s 120GBP! I went home to find the Canadian equivalent of Bravissimo or Naturally Close. There were lots of companies that would post to Canada but they would have to come across the border which means border fees – not a convenient way to shop for Canadians. My choices were, forever bra shop in England or start an online store for busty Canadians. 18 months later Butterfly Collection was born.

What is your mission?

My mission is two-fold. I want to educate Canadian women about their bra size (the Plus Four Method dominates in Canada) so that they can experience the freedom and happiness of being in the right bra. Secondly, I want to make E+ bras more accessible and affordable for Canadian women so that busty women have choice.

What could lingerie companies do to make things better for curvy women?

I would love North American brands to start making bigger cup sizes and smaller backs. I have a couple of Canadian brands that I love but they don’t do 28 or 30 backs and stop at an F or G cup. The biggest thing I would love to see from lingerie manufacturers and retailers is more education for young women. If we can get 16 year olds interested and passionate about bra size then they could avoid a lifetime of feeling uncomfortable and inadequate in their bra.

What would you say was the single most important thing to consider when fitting bras correctly?

I would say that confidence is really important. I think a lot of women feel intimidated because they’ve been taught to believe that bra fittings are complicated and may ultimately result in an uncomfortable bra that you just have to live with! I want to demystify the bra fitting experience so that it is accessible to women. Bra knowledge is empowering both physically and emotionally.

Do you have any advice for girls feeling unhappy about or pressurised to change their body shape?

Remember that you are a completely unique human being and that is the most beautiful thing about you. The most wonderful moments for me are when a woman who has always felt uncomfortable in her bras and clothes, and consequently uncomfortable in her skin, finds a bra that fits her and rediscovers how amazing her body is and how confident she can feel. Bodies shouldn’t fit fashion, fashion should fit bodies.

Thank you!

Canadian readers near Vancouver can request personal fittings through the Butterfly Collection website, or anyone can check out the excellent Bra School resource for advice finding your own way to a perfect fit.  

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