Banish “Fat Talk”, say hypocrites

Last year, ahead of the whole world’s apparent “LOSE WEIGHT IN 2014” New Year’s Resolution mayhem, Special K launched a campaign encouraging women to stop “fat talking” about themselves. It argued that the brutal way in which women talk about themselves – using words like fatty, cow, gross etc – is damaging to their self-esteem. And I agree. We can all be horrible to ourselves – but by silencing that unhelpful inner voice and restricting self-commentary to the more positive, constructive tones you would use with a friend we can stop bullying our already trashed self-confidences and help build ourselves up in to happy, well-rounded human beings (hopefully who know there’s more to life than not having a thigh gap).

But you know what? No, Special K. No, you do not get to sell yourself as a brand who cares about empowering women. You – with a product that has been banned in Denmark for potential health risks when eaten every day; your short term weight loss promises; or your 2012 ASA ban in Britain for “misleading information about calorific value and weightloss” – you are not a company who gives one tiny crap about the well-being and happiness of women at large. Your diet encourages a distorted relationship with food designed to sell more of your own products: and because it’s well established that diets fail, you can rest assure that your customers will keep coming back. You are part of the problem: and you do not get to sell your exploitative wares back to the very women you’re helping to manipulate under the guise of empowerment. Graaaa.

New Year’s dieters, spend your money elsewhere. You deserve better.

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How To Start Running

Freya Lingerie Sports Bra

There are two camps when it comes to New Year’s resolutions. To the first – like Megan Stelling over at the ever-fabulous Rookie – they are “literally the worst thing ever” and designed to make us all feel like inadequate failures before January’s over. In the other – with me and a number of other quite possibly annoying, smiling goons – they are optimistic aspirations that help us reset and refocus on our goals after aeons of daytime darkness and about a fortnight of solid Toblerone consumption.

Rookie claims that 92% of Resolutions “fail” – which is a depressing number – but I can’t help but think that rather depends on your view of “failure”. Sure, if my resolution is “run every day” I am probably going to fall short of the mark (not least when New Year’s Eve ended at 6am on January 1st). But that doesn’t mean I won’t run more often than I would have if I hadn’t made that promise to myself. And surely if I run more… well, to me that’s not failure. The fact that it is not perfection doesn’t mean it isn’t awesome.

This is a super long winded way of saying this: I bloody love running and I am resolved to do more of it in 2014 (I’m racing my husband to 1000k – thighs don’t fail me now). And judging by my Twitter feed, a lot of other people want to join me and my fellow Lycra’d friends at it too. So based on my experiences nearly three years ago here are my top tips for how to start – and keep on – running this year. Good luck!

1: Get The Right Bra

They say you should consult your physician before beginning any new fitness regime. Well, before that, consult a sports’ bra expert. Whatever size, your breasts are made of delicate tissues and fibre that will bounce (in a figure of eight motion, apparently) as you run. Ouch. Invest in a decent sports bra before attempting anything energetic. Freya’s Active range suits me best – you can read my review here – and while Panache’s sports bra is too tall for my short body it’s a favourite with bloggers and awards’ shows alike. Enell and Shock Absorber are also highly recommended – although I prefer a little more support than the SA can offer for a G+ cup during high impact exercise. I tend to wear my sports bras a little tighter in the band than I would a normal bra – I find it gives me better anchorage and as long as it’s not restricting your breathing it’s totally comfortable for the duration of the workout. Remember though – as with any bra if you’re sizing down in the back remember to size up in the cup to ensure consistent cup volume.

2: Get The Right Shoes

This isn’t a post about how you need to spend loads of cash on gear before you can get out on the road, but I do strongly believe that investing in the foundations is essential to ensure you’re not immediately thwarted by sore boobs or niggling knees. So along with your bra, do invest in a good pair of running shoes. Where possible, head down to your local sports shop and (even if you buy your shoes cheaper online afterwards) get your gait analysed. This will tell you how you naturally run, and what shoe support (if any) you need to look for in your. The wrong shoes can lead to injury, so it’s worth doing things properly at the beginning if you’re serious about this resolution. 

3: Feel Comfortable

Assuming you have the right shoes and bra, you soon realise that it really doesn’t matter what you wear when you run. The point is – you’re running. Even if people are judging you for your sloppy joggers or your old Justin Bieber tour teeshirt or your sweaty red face (and believe me, they’re not) – you’re gone before they can get a second look. Personally I like running in Lycra (or short shorts in the summer) because it’s comfortable and makes me feel fast – but I started in some fairly scruffy yoga trousers and old band t-shirts (disclaimer: not Justin Bieber). Wear what feels right for you and your budget, whether that’s hi-tech Lycra or pyjama bottoms. Although always double check you can tie-secure any elasticated waist-bands before running. Runners are a supportive and non-judgemental community, but flashing is still frowned upon.

4: Make It Social

It can be extremely hard to get going in the dark and wet months (or as we like to call them in Northern Europe, 75% of the year), but making social dates can help you stay motivated and – importantly – encouraged. Either run with friends, or use social running apps like Nike+ or Endomondo to stay challenged, be supported and feel part of a community.

5: Set Achievable Goals

It’s your first run. It’s not going to be a marathon. Stretch, then set your timer* for something you feel is manageable based on your fitness and experience (even if it’s just 20 minutes at first) and run slowly and without stopping in loops around your neighbourhood. Try not to stop – if you’re finding it tough slow down or power-walk until you can get going again. Stop, stretch, and be proud of yourself. From this starting point you can build up both time and distance as your fitness increases – and set yourself mini-challenges you can smash as you go. Both the apps recommended above keep track of your progress, making this both fun and easy.

*Note that I recommend time rather than distance – personally I find this a much more encouraging motivator: it makes it easier to get out (anyone can do anything for 30 minutes) -and before you know it not only are you half-way through but you’re also on your way home.

6) Be Kind To Yourself

Whether it’s injury, sickness, work or family commitments – sometimes you’re going to “fail”. It doesn’t matter. The best thing about running is that it’s totally forgiving. Even if you forget about it for months, it’s always there for you. And if running really isn’t for you, then good job for trying. Plenty more activities out there to try… just make sure you do all of your adventuring in a perfectly supportive bra.

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Hello 2014, and a very happy New Year to you all. And let me know if you’re taking up running for the first time – would love to hear about your experiences!

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Panache win sports bra trophy. But…

Panache Sports Bra

At last night’s UK Lingerie Awards, Panache took home the Sports Bra Brand of the Year award for the second time running. It’s no surprise: the bra – which runs from B-H cup – has been unanimously celebrated by reviewers across the world, and is constantly recommended to me for all manner of situations. People love it.

There’s just one thing. I don’t.

I first tried the Panache Sports Bra in a 30G about a year and a half ago. I went for a run, excited to try this long-awaited innovation. To the eye, it fit fine – but after about 10 minutes, I had to turn back – I was in too much discomfort with the bra to continue. The next day I tried cycling – and the same thing happened. The day after, I tried yoga – just to be sure. Performing back strengthening exercises on the floor, I was in so much pain that I actually cried.

Although the bra didn’t seem to be riding up or shifting, or even too tight – each and every time I wore it I found it slowly cut in to the muscle at my armpit until I couldn’t wear it any more. At the time I actually wrote to Panache (who – full disclosure – had actually sent me the bra for review) to see if there were any sizing tricks to the bra I wasn’t aware of. They never replied, and I clean forgot to chase or even write my review.

Until now. I’m not writing this because I don’t think Panache should have won. Panache is a brilliant company and this bra is extremely popular with a lot of women and has enabled a lot of women who had written off exercise back in to fitness: I’m sure for some it must be good. But it’s tough for curvy girls to get in to sport as it is – and I’d hate to think of a woman being put off trying because ‘even the best sports bra in the world doesn’t work for me’.

Looking at the bra now, it’s clear that the problem is the the style in relation to my frame. I have a short body, and an even shorter chest – the bra is simply to tall for me and even the most perfect fit won’t stop the slow pinch of that bra in my armpit. However, the ‘BEST SPORTS BRA IN THE WORLD’ not working hasn’t deterred me – once a serial PE dodger I now run regularly (and actually like it…). For fellow petite ladies, Freya do a fantastic underwired sports bra also to an H cup that is cut lower at the armpit. Or if you prefer a softer style of support, Shock Absorber is also pretty good, although in a more limited range of sizes.

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Mind The Gap



Can we just take a moment to think about how awesome Robyn Lawley is? Faced with brutal online criticism of her body, instead of staying silent she directly challenged the people judging and objectifying her body, and wrote an angry article against the trend on The Daily Beast.

She wrote: “It’s just another tool of manipulation that other people are trying to use to keep me from loving my body.”

Truth.

Not including photoshop, there are actually two ways to get a thigh gap, so – dear Concerned Media – let’s not turn this in to another alarmist stick to beat skinny girls with. Yes, you can get a thigh gap from being dangerously underweight. But mostly you get there by that dumb old lottery called genetics – simply by the arrangement of your skeleton. I know – I am a healthy, non-underweight thigh-gapper myself. Check it out at the bottom. Feet pressed together, there is always light from top to (front) bottom – but I’m definitely not about to appear on any pro-ana websites any time soon. I don’t congratulate myself on it: it’s just the way I was made. It would be as absurd as congratulating myself on my thumbs, or my red wine allergy.

Which brings me to my next point of why Robyn Lawley is so excellent. When she appeared on Ellen to discuss the thigh gap, she actually spoke honestly about her relationship with her body…. she said she loved it. It’s inspiring. I’ve written about this before, but when women who are held up as examples of aspirational beauty (not to mention get paid for it…) play the “I wish my boobs were better” etc etc card to appear ‘normal’, it makes it even harder for regular women struggling with their body image to believe in themselves. Lawley is very open about her first forays in to modelling and how she tried to control her weight to fit in – but acknowledges that (via a move to France and becoming a food blogger – seriously, I love this girl) by embracing food and accepting who she naturally was she became much happier and more self-accepting. Not to mention an extremely successful model/icon and total babe in the process.

Anyway. Thigh gaps, ugly armpits, whatever – these “issues” are all insane fabrications that either make us buy stuff or keep us muted. It’s time for women to fight back against the bollocks and stop being accessories to cultural structure rigged to keep us compliant and distracted from stuff that actually matters. Follow the Caitlin Moran rule: when faced with anything as “do men have to put up with this shit?” If the answer is no, then it’s sexist – and you can and should ignore it and concentrate your energy on something that matters. I know it’s hard – I still have days of self-loathing (although mercifully fewer than in my early twenties, ironically when my body was closest to what would technically be described as “slamming” as it ever will be). But we have to try.

As Robyn says, just start by saying you love your body. Over time, you’ll start believing it.

Go get em, tiger.

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Help Me Busts 4 Justice: I have Fibromyalgia and my bras hurt

Even the best fitting bras can irritate once in a while; but what do you do when a chronic health condition means they hurt all the time?

Help Me Busts 4 Justice!

I’m a 20 year old with a chronic pain condition called fibromyalgia. I am in intense pain every day of my life (imagine how it felt the last time you broke a bone and imagine dealing with that everyday). Because of this, bras are incredibly painful for me, I’ve followed your advice and Cheryl’s, and Brastop, and every reputable source I could find to find the perfect fit, but it still hurts so badly that I don’t know what to do anymore. 

Do you have any advice on what bras to look for, or how I could make them more comfortable for me? I work in a male dominated industry, and I’m a 38E, so going braless is just not an option.

Thanks for any help you have!

K

Hey K,

So sorry to hear about your condition: though I don’t have any experience personally I put this question out to my network in the hopes of finding some advice that could help find a supportive solution that causes you less pain than your standard underwired bras, and easy to track down in the States.

One great suggestion was to look for a wireless moulded bra, like the Freya Deco wireless. It’ll give you slightly more structure than a standard soft cup, but without any hard components.

But if that feels too ‘squished’ up front then of course you can try a more standard soft cup bra, like one of Royce’s soft cup bras (which though I haven’t tried, have been highly recommended to me). They don’t tend to give the most structured shape under clothes compared to underwired bras, but it will hold everything in the right place without wires.

As an alternative to standard soft bras, Braless in Brasil recommends Decent Exposures [her review here]. It’s not the most beautiful of bras but she raves about the comfort – plus being able to switch to a different back style may be a welcome respite for your shoulders.

For non-work days where structure is less important, the Ahh Bra was recommended as being a totally soft option: but given its design it may not give you the shape you need or want under clothes.

I don’t know anyone who has tried this, but it’s also probably worth exploring bras with ‘gel encased’ underwires to see if that offers any additional comfort with a more traditional support. Obviously these tend to be created by brands adding in quick fixes for poor fit *ahem Victoria’s Secret ahem*, but in the correct size it may be worth exploring to help with your day-to-day comfort. Plus given your male working environment, it may help you feel confident that you have that additional structure in the cup.

Hopefully one or more of the above will help you – I’ll certainly let you know if I come across any other solutions. But failing this all, another suggestion was to actually carry alternate bras with you in your purse so that you can switch styles if your bra starts to irritate throughout the day. It’s not an ideal solution of course – but it is a plan b if you need it.

Thanks so much for reaching out – I know there’s a lot in here but I really hope some of it can help you. Please do keep me posted and let me know if any of this works!

Love from B4J x

Huge, huge thanks to the very excellent Boosaurus, HS, LS and Braless in Brasil for helping with this post. 

Image from makebra.com

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