It’s not you, it’s them.
Your breasts are not wrong. Your body is not difficult. And you don’t have to put up with this crap any more.
If your bra is so uncomfortable by the end of the day you can’t wait to tear it off, that’s not just how it is: that’s a clear sign your bra is treating you badly. You deserve more (and can get it too!) if you learn to recognise good fit. Your band should be firm, flat to your chest, and horizontal to the floor (even if you raise your arms). Your breasts should be totally encased by the wires with no poking or resting on soft tissue. And the cup should sit flat, not pucker and gape or dig in to the skin. Don’t be afraid to disobey the fitter or to try something new: you know your body and your comfort better than she does. And don’t be afraid to experiment: you may find your perfect fit miles from where you started. E.g:
- Band riding up at the back? Try a smaller back size.
- Shoulder straps digging in? Try loosening the straps, or try a smaller back size.
- Cups spilling over? Try a bigger cup.
- Front center pulling away from chest? Try a bigger cup & a smaller back size.
- Cups gaping at the top? Try a smaller cup size
- Band too tight? Try a bigger cup size or a bigger back size.
Have an open mind and forget everything you think you know about bra sizes. And if you’re stuck, head to facebook.com/busts4justice for help finding that fit from B4J and some rather nice friends too.
Remember, poking wires, digging straps, gaping cups, bouncing breasts and wriggling bands are not something you have to accept just because a high street lingerie fitter tells you it’s right. It’s not your body making these (usually) well engineered pieces of clothing useless – it’s just the wrong shape for you.
I wish I could tell my 15 year old self that I wasn’t a freak for being the shape I was – that I could save her years of body issues and self-consciousness caused by bad fitting advice and worse fitting bras. Breaking up is hard to do, but it’s time to dump bad bras and ditch body blaming. It doesn’t matter if you’re big boobed, small boobed, skinny, fat or somewhere in between. We all deserve better from the bras we choose – and better is out there. We just need to demand it.
Love from, B4J.